Its on Us

I recently took a pledge: To RECOGNIZE that non-consensual sex is sexual assault. To IDENTIFY situations in which sexual assault may occur. To INTERVENE in situations where consent has not or cannot be given. To CREATE an environment in which sexual assault is unacceptable and survivors are supported. When discussing sexual assault, many people will ask “what was she wearing” or say things like “maybe she shouldn’t have been drinking so much.” Indeed, not being in your full senses will put you at higher risk, but by no means does it justify rape. Rape is rape regardless of whether or not the victim was in a skimpy outfit or drunk off their mind. Its time that we stop blaming the victim. There is this psychological phenomenon called the Bystander effect. The bystander effect is when individuals will not offer any help to a victim when other people are present. Its the idea that “someone will help them, I’m just too busy to do it.” Many times there isn’t a “someone.” It’s important that as human beings we skew away from this social plague of bystanders and do something. We need to reject the notion that “she deserved it” and “she was asking for it” because no one is asking to be violated. Our culture needs to stop recording it and posting it on social networks instead, interfere and save someone a lifetime of emotional trauma. You are not too busy to have compassion. You are also smarter to know that one cannot justify rape. Consent is everything. take the pledge at itsonus.org

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