My toys taught me how to be a “women”

We’re given barbies to show us beauty, we’re given baby dolls to teach us how to be mothers, we’re given easy bake ovens to teach us how to cook and then we blow out our candles; at 6 we are given everything we need to know in life. At that age we aren’t aware what these “toys” mean. We aren’t sure why “pink” is our favorite color nor do we question why “boys will be boys” is a reason to excuse a boy’s bad behavior. Ladies and Gentlemen this is when we learn our gender roles. This is when they internalize in our head what our “womanly” roles are. Indeed, we are maternal creatures but who is to say men aren’t? We, the women as the ones who bear the children are the ones who have to decide between a career and family. We, the women are the ones who feel the biological clock ticking. We, the women are the ones that are viewed as outsiders if we aren’t married by 30. We, the women are the ones who are considered twice for a job because we might be too busy raising a family. We, the women are the ones trying to reach impossible beauty standards through procedure after procedure. We, the women are the ones that are taught to believe that in order to be a “women” we have to be “sexy”, to be good mothers we have to quit our jobs and to be good wives we have to know how to cook.Only then, we are women and we’ve been training for this inadvertently.

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